It's International Woman's day today. And unlike previous times when I wrote stuff about women empowerment, saving girl child and the like, this time, I have decided to dedicated this day to all my girl friends.

All those girls who matter to me, who made a difference in my life by just being there, who I could talk to in times of distress, who I could laugh with over nothing, who I could gossip with, bitch with, rant with, go out shopping with or simply chat online with.




I want to let you know that you really really mean a lot to me. Even if you are married, have kids, have a demanding job or family issues, because of which 'our time' has become limited; but all those moment which we spent together and being there counts.

Thank you. Really.

For listening to me.
For giving me those advices which I already know.
For helping me learn new recipes.
For laughing over my non-sense jokes.
For helping me get out of useless relationships.
For standing by my side.
For bitching with me, gossiping with me.
For all those parties you threw for me, all those gifts you gave me.
For loving me, even though we have points of disagreements.
For keeping my secrets.
For being honest with me.
For making me laugh with all those cranky jokes.
For being there.

And,
For Jhelo-fying me :)

I specially want to mention Divya, Harshita, Rupal and Vibhu. My Best friends for ever.
And all you Virtual friends, from Blogger and Twitter.
If you reached here from the link I gave you, it means you are significant for me..

Love you all

Mwaaaaaaaaahhhhhs :)

Case 1: The couple had been living in since past 7 years and finally they decided to get married. God only knows why. And they separated in 1 month of their marriage.

Case 2: Arranged Marriage. Girl is a perfect daughter-in-law material. She performs her duties well. Takes care of everyone in the household but doesnt talk to her husband. They separate within 2 months of marriage. The guy gets married again. And same happens all over again. They separate again within six months this time. And now the guy is looking for another marriage.

Case 3: Arranged Marriage. Both girl and guy are engineers, working. They get married after a courtship of 3 months. Honeymoon tickets booked for Singapore the next week of the wedding day. They miss the trip somehow and go to Simla instead. Girl doesnt come back with the husband, rather returns to the PG she was residing at before her marriage. Separation.

I am not making this up. Recently I have heard of such 3 break ups in my close relatives. Case 1 is from Mumbai, 2 from Kolkata and and third one in Delhi.

Off late, I have been hearing of many break ups. Break ups as in divorces. Divorces of newly wed couples. I might be unaware of, but I guess this is a new trend developing in Metros. People get married, and separate in a few days of their marriage. Not just in arranged marriages but even in Love marriages.

I might not be the right person to comment on relationships. Or marriages. You may call me stuck in old times. But I still think marriages are relationships for lifetime. There are extreme situations when there is no other alternative left except divorces, but not even trying to settle in and taking a step as huge as this is insanity.


Oh yeah there is another aspect that there is no use dragging a relationship which doesnt work out. But then, who forced into getting married in the first part?

All right. Even if you were forced into the marriage, how do you after getting married think it is okay to break it up. It doesnt simply get into my mind.

Speaking of relationships, this new show on Bindass Channel called the "Emotional Attyachar". This show, I guess has got a high TRP. In my opinion, whatever they do on the show is totally offensive. They spy on a person. And show it on National Television. This could be a scripted show as every other reality show. If it is, I say Kudos to the creative team. If it isnt, I dont understand why do these people come to the show if in any case they are going to lose the relationship. They conduct so called 'loyalty test' on their partner. If their partner cheats, they dump them, and if they dont cheat, why would they stay in a relationship where their partner doesnt trust them.

As I understand it, relationships come cheap. As a famous Aamir Khan Dialogue goes 'Aaj Pooja, Kal koi dooja'! bleh!

Yes. Twitter.
The word of the year.
A networking where you have your say in 140 characters. You get to connect to a whole lot of interesting people, you are exposed to captivating thoughts, absorbing communications, compelling opinions, fascinating things most of all, connecting to beloved celebrities.

Sounds magnetic. Doesn't it?
Being addicted to Twitter is my personal experience. As one of my friends say- Hyper Tweet mode.

I had a Twitter account since a long time, but I actually started using it near October last year, when I was trying to get over a hump. And it helped me a lot. I could get involved in engrossing tweets and for the time being lose my problems.

It was fun. I started playing again with words and tweeted a lot of original quotes and other wacky one liners. I was regaining my sense of humor. Also, I came across some amazing people over there. I was so obsessed with it that I brought 2 of my closest friends over there..

But since i have a habit of getting bored with things too easily. Twitter had its own time, and now I was getting over with it.
And this isnt the only reason. The popularity of anything brings to it a variety of people. I have recently come across some tweets that are really gross. The Fraandship requests found their way to Twitter. Not just that, those 140 characters could get so gross, I could not imagine. People tweet things like

"I havent crapped in like 3 days" and other people are replying remedies like eat bananas and all..
"I just had sex with myself and it was GREATTTTTTTT" GROSS. Simply GROSS.

Yeah I have been procrastinating writing a post here..
I know and I believe many of you must have forgotten me, or thinking I am rude or something to not reply to your comments and not visiting your blogs, and not commenting.. And I am not giving any justifications.. Whats not right, is not right.

The truth is, I try coming back, I read blogs, and when I hop in to the comment section, I see most of the commentators are unknown to me.. So many new bloggers have set in and the people I knew have been lazy, busy or somethings, not updating not even commenting.. It feels like a whole batch has graduated the blogsville and freshers have come in.. It is nice.. But at times, I miss those old days of blogging..

Anyhow, the new year has been a kick start for me. I am happy. One of my closest friend told me she is expecting and I am gonna be a massi soon. :)
And this dreading Winter is killing, making hands an feet numb, still there is some kindda charm in this season. I love taking lone long walks in fog :)
In other news, I am trying very hard to not let laziness set for this new year.
Also one of my closest friends is getting married in Feb, so trying hard to fit in my own dresses although cant avoid eating in winters.. *sigh*
Also, somethings have been happening to me which I aint used to, so feeling a li'l awkward. But one thing for sure is, I dont like being called sweet or cute. Like really.

And as they are calling it, Twenty Ten, it has gotta be happy for all of us if it doesnt want to get kicked in the ass :D

P.S. All my old and new attempts at fiction will now be available on a new blog called "Mocking a Tale"

Another year bites the dust. Like I said last year, this time too, the year passed before I realized.
It has been quiet eventful, more on the low notes both professionally and personally. Anyhow, I really cant wait for this year to end.

The year has been a whole lot of learning.

And the nicest thing I re-discovered was that no matter what happens, your family always stands by you.
In the times of happiness and distress, its the family you look upto, you count on and you cant bear the thought of giving up on them. Believe me, its the most wonderful thing God has adorned us with.

Like each year, things happened, things went right, things went wrong, met new people, became friends, lost some friendships, achieved my goals, missed some objectives, realized things, understood things, committed mistakes, rectified bungles, dreamt, wished, wanted things to happen, wished things to not happen.

As I look back into the year, I see myself growing up, mentally. I have gained some things, lost too. I discovered some new aspects of myself, I found myself going for things I had never thought of, I made myself learn new things, I forgot some. I understood many things, I could make out the differences in realities and mirages.

But anyways, overall the year had been a mentor. The good things and the bad things taught.

And now, I am all set to march towards the new year. time for celebrations. Time for learning new ventures, new lessons, time to take new tests.

And, I choose not to take/ make any resolutions, I have decided to take the life as it comes to me.. :D

And here is one New year wish for all of you..

I have not been into TV since a long time, but yeah I do catch up with some reality shows mostly Indian Idol or dance shows, and I despise the Big Boss and Borrow child shows.

But this, as they claim, is another reality show I am hooked to.. Its called "Raaz Pichhle Janam Ka" on NDTV Imagine.. Nothing like I believe in re-incarnation or someting or I like the show, but one thing for sure is, it has 100% entertainment value.

I mean, I envy the creativity of the script writers of that show. Yes, like every other reality show, it has got to be scripted. Absolutely. Obviously the name of the suggests- Imagine.

I have seen all the 5 episodes of the show till date. The anchor of the show, nonetheless, Mr. Ravi Kisan (yep, Zindagi jhandwa phir bhi ghamandwa fame) doesnt have any thing to do on the show, his script I believe he has crushed in the mixer and gulped down as he blabbers the same lines everyday without fail just altering the name of the volunteer on the show.

The main character of the show is some famous psychiatrist Dr. Trupti Jain, who claims to hypnotise the volunteer and conduct something called "past life regression" on them and takes them back to the journey of their last birth.


First thing I dont understand is, everyone who has volunteered for the show, how have they been so sure to have lived a past life?
Second, Dr. Trupti Jain can make people see their past lives not like as a story but scene to scene, happening to happening, and can take them to and fro to one moment from another and in no sequence.. Like an album, you can play song no. 12, then song no. 3 and then song no 15- like aything.. Huh!
Third, last night, Mr. Lilliput- the actor was on air, and Dr. Trupti Jain took him to his past two lives. I mean, two? are you sure?
Forth, Shekhar Suman the actor when on air, even during his hypnotism, seemed like he is acting. He was telling the happenings of his past life as if he has already known them and did not even try to pretend that he was under hypnotism.

All the people who come to the show suffer one phobia or the other and the phobia they are suffering is how they died in their past life.
I doubt what exactly is this hypnotism? I believe if these stories arent cooked up by the creators of the show, these have to be the sub conscious of the volunteers.

And on the other side of the thoughts, our Bhagwad Geeta says that we get Human life after passing through 84 lakh lives of being other species. And all these people who have come for this regression have had human lives this recently. Are they trying to prove the Bhagwat Geeta theory wrong?

Anyhow, creativity of the creators of this show is at heights. And I will keep watching it till the time it really pisses me off.. :D

I have always had this theory to keep expectations low or to be precise, to zero.
This way, you can avoid hurting yourself..
I know expecting is a way of self torture.. When you expect something out of a person and it isn't fulfilled, you feel bad. so the easy way out is, dont expect. If the other person does something for you going out of his/her way, take it as a bonus.
Few days back, I was having a conversation with this friend of mine which got me into thinking mode (yeah, I know in a long time though).
She says, you may pretend to not expect, but it is human to expect and if you say, you don't expect, it is not being modest, rather you are escaping the truth.
I kept thinking over it and then finally reached the conclusion, she is right.
Any person who is close to you, may it be your parents, siblings, best friends, or a special one, you tend to do things for them even if you have to trouble yourself or go through terrible inconvenience, you do, it is because you want to.
And you want them to do things for you the same way. You want them to be there for you in the moments of distress. This may and may not be in return of what you do for them. It hurts you if they are unable to make it on time for you.
You may ignore it for once, but somethings you are incapable of letting go. At times, you start listing down the times you have been there for them and things you did for them and the times they weren't there for you.
You may not convey it to them, you may conceal that you are feeling bad but doesn't it get suffocating at times? It does. Blood relations kept aside, it starts driving you away from them. And if you convey it to them, this might result in a disagreement and sometimes frictions.

Expectations are confusing in themselves.

Deep down, we all have expectations. We just learn to suppress them. For once this may be convenient. But in the end, they bind you with your loved ones.