Wednesday, November 11

Is Expecting Human?



I have always had this theory to keep expectations low or to be precise, to zero.
This way, you can avoid hurting yourself..
I know expecting is a way of self torture.. When you expect something out of a person and it isn't fulfilled, you feel bad. so the easy way out is, dont expect. If the other person does something for you going out of his/her way, take it as a bonus.
Few days back, I was having a conversation with this friend of mine which got me into thinking mode (yeah, I know in a long time though).
She says, you may pretend to not expect, but it is human to expect and if you say, you don't expect, it is not being modest, rather you are escaping the truth.
I kept thinking over it and then finally reached the conclusion, she is right.
Any person who is close to you, may it be your parents, siblings, best friends, or a special one, you tend to do things for them even if you have to trouble yourself or go through terrible inconvenience, you do, it is because you want to.
And you want them to do things for you the same way. You want them to be there for you in the moments of distress. This may and may not be in return of what you do for them. It hurts you if they are unable to make it on time for you.
You may ignore it for once, but somethings you are incapable of letting go. At times, you start listing down the times you have been there for them and things you did for them and the times they weren't there for you.
You may not convey it to them, you may conceal that you are feeling bad but doesn't it get suffocating at times? It does. Blood relations kept aside, it starts driving you away from them. And if you convey it to them, this might result in a disagreement and sometimes frictions.

Expectations are confusing in themselves.

Deep down, we all have expectations. We just learn to suppress them. For once this may be convenient. But in the end, they bind you with your loved ones.




11 Obiter Dicta (Comment here):

Harshita said...

Stands up from her chair and gives you a standing ovation...

I simply loved this post coz it is very honest... Nobody is brave enuff to admit that they expect.. I see all the time, people say I DONT EXPECT... and stuff... that's all bullshit... everyone does expect...

I do expect a lot frm the ppl I love... and I am glad that u brought it forward...

Wat a comeback!! Now when you are here.. .stay!

Jaunty anima said...

Great post!!!*Nods head with agreement*:)

Americanising Desi said...

:) i have really high expectations from self!

Ashutosh Singh said...

Life is so constructed, that the event does not, cannot, will not, match the expectation

bondgal_rulz said...

Every word of the post is soooo very true. Pearls of wisdom indeed. :)

Ye expectations 50% problems ki roots hoti hain. :( But then, can't do with them and can't do without 'em either.

Ashish said...

I also second you on expectations... I remember one conversation with DAD about expectations and hope...was enlightening and liberating as reading this post was :)

have a great day :)

SAURABH AGGARWAL said...

i loved the line.. "Expectations are confusing in themselves"

keeping them low really, bind more closely to ur loved ones.. :)

this a sad reality...

Arv said...

A classic topic to debate... to suppress or to expect :)

it all comes down the particular wish/person/event...

take care mate...

cheers...

Pranav Kumar V said...

yo yo yo!! I read this post on FB... hence I've said what I've said... redirected... ;)

See you when I see you... :D

PS the Pratsie said...

expect to the point where u wnt get disappointed :)

Toon India said...

nice post...I guess keeping them minimal or down to zero as you do it ..is the right way to go about it!!

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