Monday, November 10

Mission Dulha Doondho



Seems my 25th monsoon is approaching as fast as it could, at times I feel it coming even faster than it should, it's when I see my parents' growing desperation for getting me married.

"Mission dulha dhoondo" is the hottest topic of discussion at my place these days...

Every visiting relative advents with a new rishta, the most embarrassing are the moments when someone of knowns scrutinize you from head to toe in some function and then fuel the fire by asking your parents "ab iski shaadi kab kar rahe ho?"

Most intense is my bro (younger though), who, all the time keeps on humming this 'n that (the plans for the functions, dresses, list of invites). Its because he feels himself left behind in the rat race with his frnz whose elder bros n sis' have gotten married even though they are younger than me...

His despair has reached to an extent that recently when we recieved an invite for a baby shower, he started mumbling things like "kyaa dad!! dekho aapke childhood frnz k bachhon ke bhi bachhe ho gaye hain n aapne abhi tak apni beti ki shaadi bhi nahi kari.."

My mom, she keeps telling all the relatives to find a suitable match for me- "ho koi eligible banda to batana.."

The other day when I finally gathered guts to ask her "mom itne rishton me se select karoge kaise??"
n she simply answered in her convival diction
"lucky dip!!"
(No doubt I have inherited my sense of humor from her!!)

My irk reached its peak when my mom I heard my mom saying "kids who find their match for themselves go better than those like ours who depend on parents..." *Sighs!!- Mom did I hear it right? Did I do real badly not dating anyone?*

Besides, matrimony portals and newspaper classifieds are being frisked for getting me a Jeevansaathi and for the mission Shaadi
(no, they havent paid me for advertising them) as if the guy would be pulled out of the screen of my destitute lappy or of the respective prints of the papers.

N yes, I aint rejecting any of the potential candidates, I need not do it, my parents are more cautious than me regarding all those specifications for choosing my "would be"..

Neither m I looking forward to a cool, handsome, rich guy, but I need not have to be obstinate for those hard n fast eligibility conditions, for those too are taken care of in a way better than I would do.

N regarding the decision, when it will be taken, will be known to my blog as I always say "main to gaaye (cow) hoon, jiske saath bandhenge usi ke saath chali jaaungi" [;)]


39 Obiter Dicta (Comment here):

divinediu said...

:D

Good luck.

Hame update karte rehna, behna.

Viks said...

"kids who find their match for themselves go better than ..."
enuf to irk a girl ha..
marriage s too huge a step that we all feel apprehensive abt..it literally shivers me down..
for nw jst njoy the xperience of rejecting sum lols..

Praveen said...

you are really lucky to have such a mom who says "kids who find their match for themselves go better than those like ours who depend on parents."...people are waiting to hear such things from their parents..hhehehe..

and ur bro...real funny...
and loved that 'lucky dip' line:D

hope to read the marriage invitation here soon

Richa said...

@ Divinediu
thnx yaar :) i really need the good luck :P
updates shall follow :)

Richa said...

@ Viks
lolz.. u are atleast enjoying rejecting some :) i have no such luck either :)
n yes hugeness of this step tht i could not take led to the statement made by my mom :P

Richa said...

@ Praveen
lolz.. only if i could hear it few years back :P

i know he is funny, but his despair has to be seen, i feel amused wen i see him irritated :D

yeah lucky dip.. moms will always be moms :D

yeah, updates shall follow as n wen they come across :D

wish me luck!!

Arjun said...

haha... I understand...

There's one of my cousin who's goin through the same thing n she's 28..... That must be a comforting thought for u... ;)
It must be a pain to attend family functions nowadays i guess ,rite??

Anyway, kind of nicely written..

Cheers..!!
Arjun

Keshi said...

I dun u'stand why some ppl give so much importance to the AGE more than the Marriage itself.

It doesnt matter if ur 25 or 28 or 35 or 45, what matters is if ur ready to settle down and if u hv found someone u think u can spend the rest of ur life with. If not, there's no point doing it for the sake of tradition or society's beliefs etc etc. Cos in the long run, Marriage isnt a fairytale..it takes alot more to make it work.


All the best Richa and dun be pressured by others. Im glad ur mum is a WISE woman!


Keshi.

Richa said...

@ Arjun
it doesnt comfort me wen i think bout ur cousin, i can kind of make out her state of mind, wat kind of pressure she would be going thru..

yeah family functions r literally not easy to attend.. i dun understand, y do other ppl have pain in their a**es for suggesting n fuling the fires!!

Richa said...

@ keshi
I am glad tht u have rather taken the sarcasm meant in the post than the humor it shows :) Hugz for tht..

**Cos in the long run, Marriage isnt a fairytale..it takes alot more to make it work.

yeah i undertand it vy well n know it tht one cant judge the other person in a 5 minute brief meeting..

thnx buddy i do need the best wishes n i love my mom :)

Jagjit said...

Wish you all the best!

Richa said...

@ Jagjit
Thnx dude i need it :)

thnx for coming over, keep coming back..

Chriz said...

cool rich handsome young man with many love failures HERE

Mayank said...

Hey Richa,

Long live Bachelors

Every man should get married some time; after all, happiness is not the only thing in life!!!

Richa said...

@ Chriz
omg rofl!!!
this wasnt a matrimony classified dude!!
btw should i provide u wid my dad's contact no ;) :P

Richa said...

@Mayank
u think so like me :)

Chaggoholic.... said...

Gud luck wid your search. hope u find a good guy(Gaay like u)....

Phoenix said...

trust me when i say i understand... though i still have about 4 years to fall into the dulha dhondo scanner... n moreover i have someone.. but nosy relatives are at it from now only.... and my best friend too is facing a similiar brunt on personal friend...

sometimes i wonder what is important?just getting married to any good potential mate? or being ready to marry, to wait for the right guy

Kartz said...

Hmmm... My best wishes for the groom-hunt! And enjoy the time you get to be single. :)

Looking at what Keshi said; there is 'age' in marri'age'... ;)

Ok, enuf of P+iJs... :D

Peace.

Richa said...

@ Chaggoholic
thnx dude i need it :)

n gay u mean?? i m as straight man:D
n if u mean happy wala gay, *blushing me* -thnx :)

Richa said...

@Pheonix
thnx for droppin in..

i can understand ur state of mind, i have a friend, whose parents were worried for her marriage since she had not even turned 18!!

all the best for ur future gurl :)

n answering ur querry, i guess, right guy isnt an eligibilty to b filled in.. how d u know who the ryt guy is gonna b..
in my cae, since i dun have 'my sum1' or rather, i havent come across sum1 who i cud find the apt fit, i guess, parents are more experienced, they can find me a good one though :)

Richa said...

@ Kartz
Thnx dude!!
yeah i am LIVING by the time i am single :D

marri'age'?? i wud rather call it we- dding!! ;)

Anandit _ Andy said...

Ha ha ha ha............i enjoyed the post thoroughly. Its not that i am mocking and stuff. Its because i understand, my chachi is also looking for a suitable match for my cousin brother, and i die laughing when i chat with my dear bro who is not so desperate to marry!!!!!!!!!!
Wonderfull!!!!!!
a triple thumbsup to this one!!!!!!

Sam said...

For sire ,arriages aint fairy tales, but they aint that scary too :)

nice blog this....If you wish do drop by my blog too :)

Mahul Bhattacharya said...

Ur one lucky gal!

Ur parents want you to get married, they are happy to let u find a guy 4 urself, and are eager to do the honors, since u can't. :D

What more can u ask??

Guess I'll understand what ur going thro' 5 years hence. :-(

Anyway best of luck 4 ur DULHA!

Twisted Elegance.... said...

Firstly your mom is cool! Hope every mom in this country allows her children to find their own mate

Secondly: You are so so young...why do you wanna get married so soon? you got no ambitions to fulfill?

Thirdly: Check if your brother is in some relationship....maybe he wants to push you out and clear his way for an early marriage :D

Richa said...

@ Andy
thnx dude!!

give my regards to ur cousin, i know it is even harder for a guy to get married wen they aint mentally ready.. :)

Richa said...

@ Sam
lolz, i know marriages aint scary, i have seen all succesful around myself.. :)

thnx for dropping by, keep comin back..

i did go to ur blog n posted comment as well :)

Richa said...

@ Mahul
lolz.. are u in the queue waiting to get married?? ;)

thnx dude, i need best wishes :)

Richa said...

@ Sagar

one- complement accepted for my mom :)

two- hehe i am elated to hear myself young thank you so much, hugz for tht :) i have ambitions, but they r gonna take long to get fulfilled :) follow my blog regularly, u ll have an idea wat i aim for :)

three- i did check out, he isnt in any relationship, moeover he is too young to get married yet :) he is juz 19..

Richa said...

@ Sagar

one- complement accepted for my mom :)

two- hehe i am elated to hear myself young thank you so much, hugz for tht :) i have ambitions, but they r gonna take long to get fulfilled :) follow my blog regularly, u ll have an idea wat i aim for :)

three- i did check out, he isnt in any relationship, moeover he is too young to get married yet :) he is juz 19..

Sam said...

hey richa, many thnx.....Addin u up if u dont mind :)

vinay said...

wish i had ur mom!!!liked her dialogue!!

thearmyguyspeaks said...

nice that u have understanding parents... sadly with me its not the same case....

anyway ..best of luck and hope u get a good soulmate

Richa said...

@ Sam
I can not be less than glad for u addin me up :)
n thnx for joining in the followers.. :)

Richa said...

@ Vinay
thnx for droppin by, keep coming back :)

Richa said...

@ thearmyguy
dun u worry dudde, wat ever happens happens for best :)
u ll get to meet ur soulmate too :)

n thnx buddy, i need best wishes:)

muthu said...

your mom sure has a sense of humor...

and

I think that people who are already married jus cant digest the fact that singles are having more fun... may be thats why they are pushy abt marriage... jus kidding... :)

on a serious note, I think that people believe that certain things in our life constitutes our culture and by doing those you identify yourself with the mass of your fellow indians....

one of those important things that are thought to be our culture is a good pompous marriage....

what do you say.

Shanu said...

Haan yaar..my mom gave me the kids who find their match for themselves go better than those like ours who depend on parents.. line too..if only she wld have told me that a few yrs ago(matlab jab main school/college main thi)!

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